Tag Archives: loss

It’s How We Move Forward

Posted on August 24, 2025 by Pamela Hester King

Bestie jetted off with her hubs for an impromptu vacay to Maui – which is so un-Bestie like. She’s very methodical. I was happy to hear about the trip. Everyone should figure out how to bust out now and then. … Continue reading →

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Next of Kin

Posted on August 4, 2025 by Pamela Hester King

“Excuse me”, I interrupted, “the person you have listed as my next of kin is dead.” “Oh. I’m sorry. When did your husband die?” Pause. “32 years ago.” “Ooh,” a half-startled sigh from the passport agent, behind the window at … Continue reading →

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Gin and Letting Go

Posted on December 19, 2020 by Pamela Hester King

My dad drank Bombay.  Bombay gin on the rocks. “Not Sapphire”, which he thought was too strong and ruined the flavor, and repeated emphatically.  He drank it twice a year, maybe thrice. His birthday on the 19th of February, and Christmas. Very … Continue reading →

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Insides and Outsides

Posted on August 24, 2012 by Pamela Hester King

I’d always been round. A chubby child. Pleasantly plump. Pink cheeks on fair skin. Dark, dark, wavy hair. A cherubic babe from a Renaissance painting born to a later era. I felt like a near-miss. Mine is the least reliable memory … Continue reading →

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Something Beautiful

Posted on April 11, 2012 by Pamela Hester King

Vicki carried the orchid to work one morning and set it on my desk. A white phalaenopsis nearly two feet tall in a beautiful cachepot nestled in a florist’s white gift box. Spanish moss covered the redwood planting bark. Three willowy bloom … Continue reading →

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The Fine Print

Posted on February 4, 2012 by Pamela Hester King

This is what you need to know about this blog. Sometimes there will be journal entries. And sometimes there will be reflections, observations or stories about a point in time after my husband’s death. Occasionally you’ll find a combination or … Continue reading →

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The First Bite

Posted on February 3, 2012 by Pamela Hester King

It’s difficult believing how many years have passed since my husband’s sudden death. My son was 11. He is now 30. I’m remarried. I live in a different city with a different husband, a different career, and a changed life. … Continue reading →

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