Category Archives: Grief

Sometimes is Every Autumn

Posted on September 26, 2020 by Pamela Hester King

Sometimes I’m so sad I need a moment. It doesn’t last a minute. My eyes rim with tears. They don’t hit my cheek. I hear my thoughts, collect myself and say, “This isn’t helpful. What might be?” I think of … Continue reading →

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Healing

Posted on June 12, 2020 by Pamela Hester King

Today Facebook reminded me that five years ago I made a post on my late husband’s birthday. He was 73 on that day. I didn’t need reminding. I already knew he’d be 78 today. I remembered yesterday, and this morning … Continue reading →

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Don’t Give Up

Posted on February 5, 2019 by Pamela Hester King

Last year after the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain I published a post titled, “And Then There’s Suicide”, seeking to shine a light on the legacy suicide leaves for its survivors. Super Bowl Sunday Kristoff St. John was added to … Continue reading →

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What We Don’t Know Until We Do

Posted on October 9, 2018 by Pamela Hester King

Doing the mall crawl, laughing with Bestie. Bam! I was crying. And I didn’t know why. It wasn’t a drip, drip, seeping cry but a sneaker wave that washed over me. We sat down on a mall bench flanked by … Continue reading →

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Rituals

Posted on September 20, 2018 by Pamela Hester King

I found this article fascinating because it articulated something I believe to be true yet had not previously consciously considered. I had, and have, rituals. They’ve helped me. Though I don’t go to the cemetery often, I always go close … Continue reading →

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Truth

Posted on August 29, 2018 by Pamela Hester King

Recently I was a guest on The Kiss My Age Show podcast. The episode’s topic was  the “invisibility” of women of a certain age. (Check the App Store or Google Play on your device for a podcast subscription. If you’re a mid-century … Continue reading →

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And Then There’s Suicide

Posted on July 9, 2018 by Pamela Hester King

There is no “worst” thing about suicide because it’s all the worst. Every aspect, every horror, every guilt, every wish for a do-over; the keening of every parent whose child has chosen it, the longing for a lifetime of every … Continue reading →

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Red Light, Green Light, In Between Light

Posted on February 23, 2013 by Pamela Hester King

A day or two before New Years Eve my grandmother called me. She wanted to know how I was feeling. And doing. My infant daughter had died in October. My mom’s dad in September. My other grandfather, her husband, months … Continue reading →

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Telling Tales “After School”

Posted on October 25, 2012 by Pamela Hester King

This is a long piece, written a while ago. I’ve edited it but the truth is it covers 19 years and I’m not a good enough editor to distill it further. I place it here now for a couple of … Continue reading →

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Body Surf

Posted on September 25, 2012 by Pamela Hester King

Remember when I mentioned that sometimes I bulldoze my way in with thoughts and recommendations? Yeah? Today I share some of those because they’ve been important to me. Maybe for you, too. You’ll know. So, here is something I learned … Continue reading →

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