Author Archives: Pamela Hester King

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About Pamela Hester King

Wife, mama, gramma, bestie and friend, colleague and coach. These are my roles. Artist, writer, observer and thinker, gardener and baker; all around creative spirit. These make me. https://pamelahesterking.com https://checkingtherearviewmirror.com https://isitreallyallrandom.blogspot.com

It’s How We Move Forward

Posted on August 24, 2025 by Pamela Hester King

Bestie jetted off with her hubs for an impromptu vacay to Maui – which is so un-Bestie like. She’s very methodical. I was happy to hear about the trip. Everyone should figure out how to bust out now and then. … Continue reading →

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Next of Kin

Posted on August 4, 2025 by Pamela Hester King

“Excuse me”, I interrupted, “the person you have listed as my next of kin is dead.” “Oh. I’m sorry. When did your husband die?” Pause. “32 years ago.” “Ooh,” a half-startled sigh from the passport agent, behind the window at … Continue reading →

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I Haven’t Written for A Long Time

Posted on July 31, 2025 by Pamela Hester King

I haven’t written for a long time.  A few years back there was a cyber stalker. It’s not hard with the internet to find someone wherever they may be. Their address. Mail them a letter. Take liberties behind a keyboard. … Continue reading →

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Gin and Letting Go

Posted on December 19, 2020 by Pamela Hester King

My dad drank Bombay.  Bombay gin on the rocks. “Not Sapphire”, which he thought was too strong and ruined the flavor, and repeated emphatically.  He drank it twice a year, maybe thrice. His birthday on the 19th of February, and Christmas. Very … Continue reading →

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Sometimes is Every Autumn

Posted on September 26, 2020 by Pamela Hester King

Sometimes I’m so sad I need a moment. It doesn’t last a minute. My eyes rim with tears. They don’t hit my cheek. I hear my thoughts, collect myself and say, “This isn’t helpful. What might be?” I think of … Continue reading →

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Healing

Posted on June 12, 2020 by Pamela Hester King

Today Facebook reminded me that five years ago I made a post on my late husband’s birthday. He was 73 on that day. I didn’t need reminding. I already knew he’d be 78 today. I remembered yesterday, and this morning … Continue reading →

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Hope Lost

Posted on March 27, 2019 by Pamela Hester King

Suicide is the loss of belief that any day, or hour to come will be better, or that current unrelenting pain will abate, or be ameliorated even slightly. It is surrender to the belief that every moment will be as … Continue reading →

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Don’t Give Up

Posted on February 5, 2019 by Pamela Hester King

Last year after the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain I published a post titled, “And Then There’s Suicide”, seeking to shine a light on the legacy suicide leaves for its survivors. Super Bowl Sunday Kristoff St. John was added to … Continue reading →

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What We Don’t Know Until We Do

Posted on October 9, 2018 by Pamela Hester King

Doing the mall crawl, laughing with Bestie. Bam! I was crying. And I didn’t know why. It wasn’t a drip, drip, seeping cry but a sneaker wave that washed over me. We sat down on a mall bench flanked by … Continue reading →

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Rituals

Posted on September 20, 2018 by Pamela Hester King

I found this article fascinating because it articulated something I believe to be true yet had not previously consciously considered. I had, and have, rituals. They’ve helped me. Though I don’t go to the cemetery often, I always go close … Continue reading →

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